My husband saw our newborn & threw my things out on the street

“Childbirth is more admirable than conquest, more amazing than self-defense, and as courageous as either one.” — Gloria Steinem.

The act of giving birth is exhilarating, wonderful, painful, and divine. Witnessing the miracle of creating a new life and welcoming it into the world is unmatched, and it wasn’t any different for a woman who goes at SweetBabyZ2020 on Reddit.

Sadly, what was supposed to be the most precious moment of her life turned into a bitter and a rather challenging experience because of the skin of her newborn daughter’s color.

It turned out that the baby was darker than anyone assumed, given the fact that both her mom and dad were quite white.

This revelation made the woman’s husband extremely angry. Without even talking to her, he was quick to share on his social media and inform everyone he knew that his wife was cheating on him.

She couldn’t believe what was happening. The failing attempts to assure him that the baby was his led him to threw her belongings out of the house, and that included everything they bought for their bundle of joy’s nursery.

“Jim refused to pick me up from the hospital, threw my stuff out on the lawn, and changed the locks, so I had to stay with my parents,” she recalled in her post on Reddit.

The woman ended living with her parents, still unable to pull herself together around the fact that she was accused of cheating.

A few weeks passed by, and Jim finally agreed on a DNA test. To his surprise, it showed 100% match between him and the baby. He then took it again, but the results were the same.

He felt extremely guilty of accusing his wife of adultery, and the baby’s dark skin turned to be due to Jim’s 30% African ancestry he was not aware of. This made a family secret to be revealed, that his great-grandmother had her son with an African man from an affair with him.

At that point, Jim tried making things right. He begged and apologized over and over again, but the woman wasn’t ready to forgive him for not trusting her and treating her with such disrespect.

“I can’t un-hear or unsee all the horrible things that were said and done. Not just to me but to my child as well.”

The family suggested they go for couple’s therapy, but the woman didn’t feel like trying to fix things that were broken beyond repair.
Redditors reacted to her post. “Leave him and never look back. Go to court and let them decide custody. It’s not going to go well for him,” one person wrote.

After sharing her story, the woman posted an update and explained she and Jim were separating and that she was the primary custodian of their baby but she lets him visit their daughter.

Some Redditors noted that Jim’s initial reaction left OP with “permanent psychological trauma” but that in case he was aware of his great-grandmother’s affair he wouldn’t have probably acted like that.